https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/
I found this article a few years ago and never completely forgot it. I have since continued to think about this and the workshop was a great outlet for all of us to add our own spin to it and help the group with ideas....our top 3 ideas!
1. Digital ideas using a shared note about whatever subject was required. Mine is a grocery list that I share with my partner, but there are a few other maintenance type notes we use as well. The best part is I rarely forget my phone but I almost always forgot the paper list. A digital calendar with reminders is also a good way to keep track of birthdays, anniversaries, etc. A little data entry can last a lifetime on repeat.
2. Meal Planning and prep can make a big difference in your day when you don't have to think everyday "what i am i going to make for breakfast, lunch, dinner?" Ths suggestion was to sit down with whoever is on the meal list and make a weekly plan that would take about 30 mins...that saves you as much as 2 hours a week...
3. Is some combination of self care and communication with the people you are doing emotional labour for...Setting aside time to recharge you too...If you have a partner that travels then finding out how to make that transition easier for everyone.
It really depends whats on your list when it come to emotional labour...having a list is a great first step to balancing the load. Time, patience and organization will improve. Challenge you and your family to the list of emotional work you have...see who can step up..they probably don't even think about the fact that you're holding that space. We hope you can join us at our next event!